You make me feel so angry . . .

Do you feel at times really annoyed when a certain person like your partner says something to you that you don't want to hear, you don't agree with and it makes you so angry?

What do you do? You react, raise your voice, tell them they are wrong and that they make you feel sooo angry? And how do you feel then? Does it help telling another person that they make you feel this way and that they should never say that again? If that person agrees to never say those things again, you get your way and you might not get angry again for a while. But have you now gotten to a peaceful state? Are you now feeling relaxed, is all the stress you were feeling gone?

I guess not, right? There is still some turmoil in you, except now it is not activated.

We do not attain inner peace by telling others what to do. We do not achieve inner resilience by controlling others. Self mastery can only come from working with what is present within us.

The anger that appears has a cause. It looks like it comes from those words the other said. But those words only triggered a belief that lies underneath the anger. It is not possible for someone to make you feel angry or hurt or any other emotion, unless you carry a belief that create that emotion.

Imagine you have gained a certain sense of success in your life, everything is going smoothly, you have confidence about your abilities to create what you love and now somebody calls you and tells you that you have done something wrong which has upset that person. Do you now feel angry?

You won't if you have true confidence and peace within you. Instead you are able to listen to what they have to say calmly and know immediately that what they are telling you is about an upset they have. That person is trying to unload their pain onto you.

If you however have a belief that says 'I am always getting things wrong', you would be triggered by what you were told. Do you see?

Do you see now how you can gain emotional resilience?

Go deeper into your being and ask "How come I feel angry/hurt/rejected/not listened to?"

You might find thoughts that say 'I feel you are telling me I am wrong' or 'You have not listened to what I said' and hence I am feeling angry. This is the true cause of your anger/hurt etc. Do you see?

The situation that came up with this particular person is in fact showing you a belief that is not benefiting you. This situation is in fact a huge gift to help you free yourself from that belief and feel more relaxed and happy.

So do you now realise that whatever arises in you is created by you and not by the outside world?

This insight gives you back your power! It assists you to become emotionally free.

Now ask yourself, what will you do next time you are reacting with a strong emotion?

Remember you are only going to be in charge of your life when you are willing to own the beliefs you are holding onto.

Let me know if you need further assistance with this insight. And please share this post with friends who might benefit.