Are you afraid to Be alone?

When a pain button is triggered we usually look outside of ourselves to other people.

We might think badly of them, judge them or blame them for how we feel.

Because it looks like they were not considerate, they didn't think about our feelings (and they should have in our minds) and they hurt us.

The thing we usually overlook in these moments is that we have become demanding. That we are blaming others and giving our power to them.

We only see the other person and forget that it is OUR emotion.

This is the ego-self at play who is always only looking outside of itself to find someone to blame.

It is in need of praise, approval, validation, consideration etc, in short, it is looking for Love.

The other person should NOT have behaved like they did, in its view, and the fault lies with them!

Even if you might know this when you get triggered the same way of thinking comes up again and again, right?

This happens because there is still an identification with the emotion that causes the trigger to reappear.

You might still believe that you can't be on your own, without a partner, because your father died when you were little.

You feel fear when thinking about leaving the toxic relationship you're in.

Your Inner Child's fear is frozen in time and has not had the love and attention she needed to let go of her trauma and feel safe again in herself.

As long as she is still believing that she is alone and has been abandoned, she cannot be her TRUE radiant Self.

She cannot be present in your life right now and give you her uniqueness, her aliveness, and her zest for life.

If you are feeling listless, stuck, and unable to hold yourself in a strong and centered way, it's because your Inner Child is stuck.

Stopping blaming and judging the person who seemingly caused the inner pain, is the first step to self-empowerment

NOBODY can hurt us. And NOBODY needs to do what we want them to do. Everybody can choose how they want to behave.

And meeting and healing our Inner Child allows us to finally stand strong again without the burden of sadness, loss, and fear.

Removing the unresolved painful emotion is always the answer if you want to empower yourself.