He was so tactless, I felt so small!

A while ago when I went to a tango festival, I overheard a beautiful dancer sharing with her friend an experience she had after dancing with a particular leader: " He was so tactless, I felt so small. Why couldn't he think before he spoke, arrrggghhh!"

She said, when the music stopped, he (probably quite innocently) asked: " Do you not like Pugliese as much?" He must have noticed that the tango composer they were dancing to couldn't have been her favourite, as she didn't dance in her usual confident style.

This made her feel small and angry. She didn't like to receive such a comment, it upset her. He shouldn't have said that, she thought.

Who is that part in us that wants to tell people to shut up, to not be so tactless and to think before they speak?

Who in us needs to be considered, treated with care, wrapped in cotton wool, doesn't want criticism and demands tact?

It is not our all loving Heart that can't take Life as it comes to us.

It is our smaller self, the ego, that needs people, situations, life to be as it demands them to be or else ....... it will feel pain.

Do you want to be run by the delusion-filled, always-needing-something ego?

So are you then willing to take every encounter as a gift instead of rejecting it? Especially those encounters that cause you some pain?

The pain is showing us that we are believing in an untrue thought like "I am not good enough", "I can't do this" or " I need to be perfect" and this belief will come up again, until we finally embrace it, SEE, that it is not true and let it go.

The so-called-painful encounter was a blessing in disguise to assist you to SEE what you are projecting out. Do you see?

Once you have let it go, you will laugh about that thought that caused you pain! :-)

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