Everybody avoids emotional pain. WHY?

Whenever my emotions were triggered I used to feel my pain sooo very strongly. Growing up, this was a huge 'predicament' for me, because I was felt isolated from the people around me. They didn't get me. My greatest longing was to be understood and to be loved the way I was.

This longing turned into a need. A need for Love. Later in life I started looking to get love from a person close to me, a person outside of myself. I needed to be told that I was important or valuable, I needed to be acknowledged. I needed this confirmation so badly, it felt like an addiction. And it remained with me into my early 40s.

If my story had gone differently, if my feelings were valued, acknowledged, if I could have talked about them, I would probably have felt a lot more worthy and loved back then.

When we don't talk about our pain, it gets pushed into the subconscious mind, where it then becomes invisible to us, so we forget that we have this energy still in us. Until an 'unpleasant' event occurs which is there to trigger that pain, so we can look at it, embrace it and release it.

We can not push feelings away, or avoid feeling pain, tell people not to talk about it, be secretive or very private AND feel truly happy.

In our society we learned to avoid pain, everybody does that. WHY? Just because we judge it as bad, uncomfortable and difficult.

If that judgement wasn't there, we would feel differently about pain.

If we were taught that it is just an occurrence in life that is totally natural and all we need to do is allow it to be, LIVE THROUGH IT, experience it, we'd have a totally different relationship with pain. It's the avoidance that makes it much more painful.

Think about it. Allowing our emotional pain to be, takes half of its heaviness away.

The second half will go by sending the feeling Love, acknowledgement and understanding from your own Heart.

Try it and let me know how it went. I always love to hear from you. :-) xxx