How to overcome doubt

I used to think that what I am offering as a self-love mentor is NOT WORKING!

That what I am doing with my clients is not really transforming their lives!

THAT doubt was my biggest inner pain during my late 50s. (It emerged years after I had resolved my other biggy, believing that I wasn't loved, valued, or wanted.)

This massive doubt show up regularly for months and months and always stopped me in my tracks. (I am a feeling person, and when I am feeling something that is not from the realm of LOVE then I am incapable of functioning normally. )

I couldn't produce any content when doubt was with me.

I couldn't get myself to feel empowered, uplifted, and be my usual JOY.

Nor could I feel good about getting clients even though that was what I was 'working on a l l the time!

I was shooting myself in the foot. I knew it. BUT HOW CAN I GET RID OF THIS MONSTER!?!?

I would do a lot of posting, writing emails, offering my 1:1 offer, single sessions, and my group healing workshop.

Because I had to.

Because I wanted to (but not in this way).

And because it was about my SOUL'S MISSION.

But I always had that underlying, down-putting feeling of 'it's not working'.

Mentally I was not supporting my Soul's work!!

I was offering it AND devaluing it at the same time!!!

That is craziness!! (But it's the way our mind works!)

Do you know this feeling?

I looked at the very confident coaches and wondered "How can they be so confident? How are they doing it? What is the magic ingredient?"

I went inside my mind and sat there wondering what I needed to do to get my power back?

(Later on, I realised that that was an important step to get out of this dilemma).

I never knew what I was good at as a child. I lacked praise and reassurance from my parents and it was that exact missing energy that hindered me to develop that yummy feeling of self-confidence.

(I did bring some of that lack of self-love in from past life experiences).

So I used to question myself. Was I lovable? Did I have something to give? Was I too loud? Too energetic? Too full of life?

And then much later in life, I questioned my healing work. Was it working? Were people happy? Did they get what they wanted?

It was as if there was a piece of software missing from my computer brain that would give me that natural skill of self-confidence.

Even though I was told often that what I was doing was indeed good enough, my mind would not take it on!!

Yes, I do think that we all have natural confidence.

BUT because of the conditioning we are going through, we forget about it; because we are learning something else through this osmosis effect our body experiences when we are with our parents at that tender age.

Our body absorbs their energy. Even now as adults!

And if we are not present at that moment we allow other people's energy in!

I had rarely felt that natural surety in my body about myself which brings so much satisfaction, fulfillment, and joy.

Except for when I was doing my beloved gymnastics. I didn't need to be told that I was good at that because I could FEEL IT!

Interesting, right!?

But when I was doing something that involved another person, i.e when I was dancing Argentine Tango and when I was working with my clients, I was depending on their feedback.

I gave my power to their judgment!! I wanted to hear from them!

OMG! RED ALERT!

My mind would feel unsure, always wanting to be better, never thinking that I was good enough, still lacking that piece of software.

Because my focus was ON OTHERS!

Those observations I had as a child were STILL driving me then.

They were dictating my reality!

EVEN THOUGH I loved my dancing!

EVEN THOUGH I'd feel really energised after each session with my clients, which sometimes lasted for days!

Somehow my mind was stronger than my feeling! (I didn't like that at all and HAD to change something!)

I HAD to make my FEELINGS stronger than my mind.

I HAD to take back my power. Stop caring about what others might think.

AND I HAD to back myself with my OWN confidence by telling myself a NEW STORY and then embodying it, FEELING IT as if it is real!

So I started to CREATE that.

I started to listen to my own recorded uplifting affirmations that created yummy feelings inside.

Then I sat there in my future movie clip experiencing my own success, and an abundance of joy, fulfillment, and wealth.

That is when I started to feel my own power.

And the doubt?

It waned. It faded away into nothingness.

(I have to mention that I had done some healing work prior to this episode, with the doubt, that would have prepared the ground. It actually stemmed from a past life. Here I am sharing the story of the final sprint).

I guess you can imagine what happened next?

When the mental clouds are gone our Light can shine with all its mighty power, love, and glory!

So, my full JOY came back.

I have my natural confidence.

And I am relaxed about my clients showing up when they are showing up.

Now I know how the successful guys do it.

What about you? Do you feel confident? Fully in your own power?

P.S. The greatest takeaway I learned while going through this seemingly difficult time is that the doubt was never really able to hinder me!!! WHAT!?!

Yes. Think about it! How can it?

ONLY if I give it my full power!